WIST Quotations

Jong, Erica -- “A day in the life …”, epigraph How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Dave — Sun, 01 Feb 2004 16:00:00 +0000

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
“A day in the life …”, epigraph How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Jong, Erica -- “Bennett tells all in Woodstock …”, epigraph, How To Save Your Own Life (1977)

Dave — Fri, 12 Apr 2013 12:08:30 +0000

Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
“Bennett tells all in Woodstock …”, epigraph, How To Save Your Own Life (1977)

Jong, Erica -- “Into the lion’s den,” The Guardian (26 Oct 2000)

Dave — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 13:02:31 +0000

I myself hate that old Hemingwayesque paradigm of the writer as prizefighter and I have tried hard to create an alternate one for myself. When Anne Sexton admonished me, “We are all writing God’s poem,” I took it to mean there should be no competition between writers because we are all involved in a common project, a common prayer. But to Gore’s and Norman’s generation, particularly those male writers who served in the Second World War, the prizefighter paradigm remains.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
“Into the lion’s den,” The Guardian (26 Oct 2000)
(Source)

Jong, Erica -- “Intuition, extuition …”, How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Dave — Sun, 01 Feb 2004 16:00:00 +0000

Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
“Intuition, extuition …”, How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Jong, Erica -- “Intuition, extuition …”, How To Save Your Own Life (1977)

Dave — Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:39:22 +0000

That was why most people led lives they hated, with people they hated. … How wonderful to have someone to blame! How wonderful to live with one’s nemesis! You may be miserable, but you feel forever in the right. You may be fragmented, but you feel absolved of all the blame for it. Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
“Intuition, extuition …”, How To Save Your Own Life (1977)

Jong, Erica -- “Take the Red–Eye …”, epigraph, How To Save Your Own Life (1977)

Dave — Fri, 03 May 2013 12:06:40 +0000

Every country gets the circus it deserves. Spain gets bullfights. Italy gets the Catholic Church. America gets Hollywood.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
“Take the Red–Eye …”, epigraph, How To Save Your Own Life (1977)

Jong, Erica -- “The Artist as Housewife,” The First Ms. Reader, ed. Francine Kragbrun (1972)

Dave — Sun, 01 Feb 2004 16:00:00 +0000

Everyone has talent. What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark place where it leads.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
“The Artist as Housewife,” The First Ms. Reader, ed. Francine Kragbrun (1972)

Jong, Erica -- Becoming Light: Poems New and Selected (1991)

Dave — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 10:33:14 +0000

If you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Becoming Light: Poems New and Selected (1991)

Jong, Erica -- Fear of Fifty: A Middle Life Memoir, ch. 2 (1994)

Dave — Fri, 05 Apr 2013 11:58:20 +0000

A baby is a full time job for three adults. Nobody tells you that when you’re pregnant, or you’d probably jump off a bridge. Nobody tells you how all-consuming it is to be a mother — how reading goes out the window and thinking too.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Fear of Fifty: A Middle Life Memoir, ch. 2 (1994)

Jong, Erica -- Fear of Fifty: A Midlife Memoir, ch. 10 (1994)

Dave — Sun, 01 Feb 2004 16:00:00 +0000

The soul is awakened through service.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Fear of Fifty: A Midlife Memoir, ch. 10 (1994)

Jong, Erica -- Fear of Flying (1973)

Dave — Sun, 01 Feb 2004 16:00:00 +0000

How can I know what I think unless I see what I write?

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Fear of Flying (1973)

Jong, Erica -- Fear of Flying (1973)

Dave — Fri, 03 Oct 2025 22:01:49 +0000

Men have always detested women’s gossip because they suspect the truth: their measurements are being taken and compared.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Fear of Flying (1973)
(Source)

Jong, Erica -- Fear of Flying, ch. 16 (1973)

Dave — Fri, 10 May 2013 13:29:18 +0000

A man assumes that a woman’s refusal is just part of a game. Or, at any rate, a lot of men assume that. When a man says no, it’s no. When a woman says no, it’s yes, or at least maybe. There is even a joke to that effect. And little by little, women begin to believe in this view of themselves.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Fear of Flying, ch. 16 (1973)

Jong, Erica -- Fear of Flying, ch. 7 (1973)

Dave — Thu, 05 Nov 2020 19:17:44 +0000

Silence is the bluntest of blunt instruments. It seems to hammer you into the ground. It drives you deeper and deeper into your own guilt. It makes the voices inside your head accuse you more viciously than any outside voices ever could.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Fear of Flying, ch. 7 (1973)
(Source)

Jong, Erica -- How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Dave — Fri, 15 Mar 2013 12:35:13 +0000

All people believe their suffering is greater than others.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Jong, Erica -- How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Dave — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 12:13:27 +0000

Many people today believe that cynicism requires courage. Actually, cynicism is the height of cowardice. It is innocence and open-heartedness that requires the true courage — however often we are hurt as a result of it.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Jong, Erica -- How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Dave — Mon, 11 Apr 2016 13:36:02 +0000

All people believe their suffering is greater than others’. Just as they secretly believe they are smarter, and more deserving of fame.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Jong, Erica -- How to Save Your Own Life (1977)

Dave — Thu, 11 Sep 2025 16:55:34 +0000

Jealousy is all the fun you think they had ….

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
How to Save Your Own Life (1977)
(Source)

Jong, Erica -- How To Save Your Own Life, “Intuition, extuition …” (1977)

Dave — Thu, 08 Oct 2020 19:46:32 +0000

How wonderful to have someone to blame! How wonderful to live with one’s nemesis! You may be miserable, but you feel forever in the right. You may be fragmented, but you feel absolved of all the blame for it. Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
How To Save Your Own Life, “Intuition, extuition …” (1977)

Jong, Erica -- Parachutes and Kisses (1984)

Dave — Fri, 14 Oct 2016 04:03:25 +0000

We may dig in our heels and dare life never to change, but, all the same, it changes under our feet like sand under the feet of a sea gazer as the tide runs out. Life is forever undermining us. Life is forever washing away our castles, reminding us that they were, after all, only sand and sea water.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Parachutes and Kisses (1984)

Jong, Erica -- Seducing the Demon: Writing for My Life, ch. 2 (2006)

Dave — Wed, 14 Jun 2017 14:50:22 +0000

I often think of alcohol as a genie in a bottle. It promises everything but eventually imprisons you in the bottle itself.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Seducing the Demon: Writing for My Life, ch. 2 (2006)
(Source)

Jong, Erica -- Serenissima, ch. 4 (1987)

Dave — Fri, 14 Aug 2020 02:02:34 +0000

It is the artists who make the true value of the world, though at times they may have to starve to do it. They are like earthworms, turning up the soil so things can grow, eating dirt so that the rest of us may eat green shoots.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
Serenissima, ch. 4 (1987)
(Source)

Jong, Erica -- The Writer on Her Work, ch. 13 (1980)

Dave — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 12:13:30 +0000

I have not ceased being fearful, but I have ceased to let fear control me. I have accepted fear as a part of life, specifically the fear of change, the fear of the unknown, and I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back, turn back, you’ll die if you venture too far.

Erica Jong (b. 1942) American writer, poet
The Writer on Her Work, ch. 13 (1980)