DEAR MISS MANNERS: Can you tell me a tactful way of letting a friend know that she is getting too fat?

GENTLE READER: Can you tell Miss Manners a tactful reason for wanting to do so?

Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]

Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, Part 3 “Basic Civilization,” “Common Courtesy for All Ages” (1983)
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