Grief often inspires other odd emotions, and pettiness — the jealous assertion of one’s own claims as a mourner — is one of the commonest.

Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]

“Miss Manners,” syndicated column (1981-03-29)
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Collected in Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, Part 10 "Death," "Funerals" (1983).