Language doesn’t belong to grammarians, linguists, wordsmiths, writers, or editors. It belongs to the people who use it. It goes where people want it to go, and, like a balky mule, you can’t make it go where it doesn’t want to go.

Rosalie Maggio (1944-2021) American writer

Talking About People: A Guide to Fair and Accurate Language, “Writing Guidelines” (1997)
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