Knowing that others have gone through similar tragedies may be a help, but it should be remembered that every tragedy is not only commonplace but also unique.

Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]

Miss Manners Rescues Civilization, ch. 9 “Jettisoning Professional Behavior” (1996)
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