You can not live at all if you do not learn to adapt yourself to your life as it happens to be.

Eleanor Roosevelt (1884–1962) American politician, diplomat, activist; First Lady of the US (1933–45)

Memoir (1949), This I Remember, ch. 20 “The Last Term: 1944–1945”
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This passage was not included in her compiled Autobiography (1961).